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3 Parenting Styles That You Should Know

13/03/2017

Becoming a parent is probably the most life-changing decision any couple people might take. There is always happiness associated with having children. Nevertheless, choosing or undertaking a specific parenting style is a much more important decision any couple can discuss or agree on along the way.

According to Chester Freedom Strategies, a parenting style is how a parent behaves around their children. In other words, parenting styles are the techniques and strategies the parents use in order to raise their children. I don’t think we ever took into consideration our parents’ techniques in raising us. At some point for example, we thought that they were unfair when they didn’t allow us to go out with our friends during the week. There was a reason for that decision, but we were either too mad or too young to understand.
However, when children become teenagers, areas of misunderstandings and disagreements start to increase as two set of perspectives start to clash. But, with all the problems that occurred and will always do, our parents ARE the greatest.
 

1- Authoritative parenting:

  • Parents in this case are trustworthy and reliable when it comes to their relationship with their children.
  • discussion among the family’s members is always key. Children are allowed to express their opinions while their parents listen to them.
  • Rules exists in the household, but exceptions are allowed. Parents make sure that their children understand the reason behind any decision they took.
  • Studies have showed that the children brought up in an authoritative environment are more likely to become successful and capable of taking their own decisions in life.
2- Permissive parenting:
  • Permissive parents are more likely to act as friends with their children than actual parents. When children misbehave, consequences are minimal.
  • They are supportive of their children’s needs, but they lack the authority figure each child needs in the household.
  • Permissive parents accept their children’s behaviors, whether they are good or bad, as they try to avoid arguments or clashes.
  • Reports show that children brought up in permissive parenting are more likely to become aggressive with more tendency of clashing with any figure of authority they may encounter in life.
3- Authoritarian parenting:
  • Parents are considered authoritarian when they are strict. They deal with their children with little to no communication.
  • Firm rules are expected to be followed without any form of exceptions or negotiations. When these rules are not followed, a punishment is the consequence.
  • Parents do NOT explain the reason behind a certain decision.
  • Parents who are authoritarian do not encourage or praise their children even when, for example, they are successful at school.
  • Prolonged studies show that children brought up in this environment are more likely to grow up to become hostile with poor self-esteem as they were raised to follow rules and not negotiate.
Children-parents’ relationships are highly sensitive issue at leaves a prolonged impact on an individual.  There is no right and wrong in here, there are just dynamics that fit families. Let’s keep in mind that our parents are always thinking about us and what is good for us on the short and long term. 
 

About the Contributor
- Ziad Azar: “If I can make a difference, even a small one, why shouldn’t I?”

Ziad Azar, at 25 years old is a holder of BA in Mass Media and Communication and an MA in Communication and Journalism.

He’s currently a program manager in ETI, an NGO that works towards integrating and empowering children with visual impairment,

His experience includes: Content contribution for the CLDH (Lebanese Center for Human Rights) and a media/documentary internship with Teach for Lebanon. He is a volunteer in the Koura’s Red Cross Youth Department.